I nominate myself for the **** post of the thread award. My earlier post was off the cuff and now that more facts have emerged, I realize that not knowing the OP or his son, I should've said nothing. Sorry slingerland, glad you guys are working it out.

Great Advice from everyone here. Your wife is a scholar and was able to put a sensitive issue into perspective. I was grounded for life a million times for messing with my Dad's 1964 Ampeg Bass Amp. I had to work it off by.........playing drums in his wedding band. They are my Best Memories. (Stella By Starlight.......still hate that song)