Pardon my rant, but I need to vent...last week I went on vacation just the wife and I and left our 22 year old son watch the house, he dabbles a little with the drums, I hear him on my roland kit he is not bad given the fact he had no lessons or musical background. He asked me to set up an acoustic set for him to play with his I pod while we were gone. The next part is my fault, part if the cymbal set up I put on the stands was my 20" crash ride my dad handed down to me from the 50's. so today I was downstairs and saw that cymbal was cracked, I was FRURIOUS, when I approached him about it he denied it, so he lied to me, I guess its possible he didn't even know it, but their is a difference between playing the drums and destroying them. I guess kids just like to make noise as loud as they can, to prove my case to the wife, (who tells me "well you bang on the drums right? that's what he did)obviously the wife knows nothing and should stay out of this argument. anyway, I attached a pic of the snare head, note the middle section is sagging, but the tension on the head is tight, which means he hit so hard that the structure of the head itself was impaired. I'm just sick about this, and he shows no remorse what so ever for what he did.
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70's Pearl Fiberglass Ivory
I know all about wantin to give your kids the best but.....
it's always iffy givin "non-drummers" really uber special stuff.
They just don't understand the gear.
Sabian
Vic Firth
Remo/Evans
"unless it's vintage, it's just another wooden tube."
Simple...buy another ....to replace ...give him the bill...done.
There's his lesson in growing up and taking responibilitiy...
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1966 Cleveland, 20/14/12 O'natural.
Fullerton,...20/16/13/12 Silver Glass
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1957 B/R Super Classics In WMP
Snares..
Wood & COB Powertones,
Wood & COB Dynasonics,
57 Jazz Festival
Zildjian avedis cymbals.
40s/60s era.
Simple...buy another ....to replace ...give him the bill...done.There's his lesson in growing up and taking responibilitiy...
+1, also give him some lessons on proper playing the kit !
There was a trust that you left with your son when you and your wife went on vacation and it will take awhile for that trust to come back.Even tho` he may show no remorse in the fact,he does know what he did and will have to live with that always.I remember doing stupid things in the past and remember them to this day(lies incl.)I think that this was a permanent lesson for this young man that he will not soon forget.Very sorry about your vintage cymbal,heads are replaceable...but you`ve got a (Y crack) at the end of the main one.1/8 " drill bit at the top of each Y will slow it down but not stop it.
Wayne
20,16,13,13.
1967/68 Rogers Dayton Champagne Sparkle
20,16,13,13.
1966 Rogers cob 7 Line Dynasonic Snare.
1967 Rogers "Humberto Morales" Timbales.
1980 Ludwig B/O badge 14x 6.5 Black Beauty Snare.
1980 Ludwig B/O badge Red Cortex
22,22,18,16,15,14,13.
1988 Sonor "Horst Link" HLD 590 14x8 Bronze Snare
that's a shame. it really is. ive had it happen to me as well. our 24 year old son busted a vintage zilco I had. ruined some heads and sticks too. this was a few years back. gave him some drums when he graduated. he later pawned them away. no more action on my drums. its all up to him now.
try to get that crack cut out so that you can still enjoy that cymbal.
mike
Gary,
It sucks about the cymbal and all that but at the end of the day, our kids are our kids and stuff is stuff, no?
I bought my kid a Burton snowboard that he had stolen when he left it outside a food joint during ski trip for school. Tally was around 800 bucks. He was like 14 or 15, ninth grade, so he definitely knew better.
I was freaking steaming about him letting himself be a mark, a sucker, but at the end of the day, (relating my story to yours here) our kids are still with us to be ticked-off at, and some stuff was stolen or damaged. There are many worse things that could have happened in both cases so ultimately life is still good!
Toodles,
Drumhack Car Driving2Cool1guitar3singerChewie:
Worst part is that it is Granpah's presumably well cared for cymbal.. He should be held accountable for that... The trust will be hard earned back..
Sorry to hear about that..
Cheers
'69 Slingerland Hollywood Ace
'75 Rogers Dynasonic 6.5 x 14, 10 lug COB
'77-78 Slingerland 6.5 x 14, 10 lug COB
'78-79 Slingerland 5 1/4 x14 8 lug COB
'79 Biman 5 1/4, Acrolite
'82 Slingerland 5 1/4 x 14. Festival COS
'84 Tama MasterCraft Superstar 6.5 x 14, 10 lug Rosewood
'98 Slingerland (Music YO) 6" 10 Lug Maple.. NOS
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Making him pay for the damage is a good lesson.
You wrote: he is not bad given the fact he had no lessons or musical background
YOU ARE A DRUMMER! Man, I only wish my son (or my daughter,) had shown some interest in drums when he was growing up. I lost him to the electric guitar. You should be spending time with him teaching him and sharing everything you know. Your apple didn't fall far from the tree! Drums can be a great way for you guys to bond and spend some quality time together.
John
Gary sorry to hear this. My guess with the ipod on he didn't know how hard he was hitting. And would probably not notice the change in sound with the cymbal cracked. It's a bummer for sure being your Dad's cymbal and all. Hope you both can work it out. 2 of our 3 boys play the drums a bit. So we've had our share of cracked cymbals and busted heads. But nothing that was a family heirloom. Hope you both can work it out in time. I'm sure you will. John has the right idea, share some drum lessons with him. In time he'll understand about the cymbal and head.
Not a guru just havin fun with some old dusty drums.
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