I have always used a stand for my toms. I play them low, and could never get them into position the way I like them using a bass drum mount. I also hate the way they wobble when hanging off of a cymbal stand. That picture above is misleading. It's not the best angle, and if you use a stand that has a smaller footprint, you can get the tom in pretty close.
While a snare stand CAN choke a tom, it doesn't HAVE to. For starters, do not tighten the snare basket arms all of the way. Replace the tips of the arms with surgical tubing. Buy a Pearl snare stand that has arm tips that act like Pearl ISO floor tom feet. Let the tom rest on the very tips of the arms instead of placing it fully in the basket.
In any case, not all toms are going to sound the same way on a snare stand, so you may need to experiment a little bit. IMO, I think the surgical tubing is the best way to go.