I appreciate all the advice and empathy, actually my drums are like my children except my drums have never told me to go f#** myself. I have a hard time letting go. When ever I do sell something I feel this irrational need to make sure it has a good home, and check in on it occasionally. I don't think I'm alone here. I bought a snare from a guy a while back and he sends me an email every 6 months or so to ask how I'm doing and How the snare is doing.
Sometimes it's more important Who you sell to, rather than just looking the money... When I sold my Sportster in Augsburg, Germany the phone started ringing just after 6am that Saturday morning and didn't stop until we unplugged it late that night. I let a MC mechanic have it and thought he was going to cry when I told him we had decided on him. (Note: Harley Davidson MCs are not for sale in Ge., you can only buy one from a serviceman that has shipped one over or bought new through the PX system.)