Hmmmmmmm lets see moonie broke alot of sticks I have sat there and watched him back stage... Carmine Appiece broke sticks too, also John Bonham broke Paiste 2002's, without stereo typing anyone into a you are right I am wrong category, alot of it has to do with the music you play and how you play my style of playing was very physical and I liked to play that way and yes I broke cymbals a few not many, but tons of sticks and I have put my foot through more than one bass drum head and snare heads.... just the way it goes and you play how God gave you the means too.... now don't go and get all techy on everyone..... it is music have fun let go just enjoy...
Without being judgmental here, there is no question that there are incorrect ways of playing which will result in more damage to your instrument. And there are ways of playing, holding sticks, striking cymbals and heads, angle of cymbals and heads, etc. which minimize damage to all of the above.
In addition, to play extremely fast you can't help but strike harder, but drummers who have great control can play extremely fast without completely destroying sticks and heads. And if it's volume you're looking for then mic your drums.
If you're going through cymbals, heads, and sticks, regularly, like weekly/monthly then maybe there's something you can learn about technique to help.